How To Cope With Change In Life

Welcome to Hero TV today. we’ve got Chad Hymas and we’re going to be talking about how to cope with change in life. I couldn’t think of a better person to at least address this topic really excited for it. Hey friends Chad Hymas here today’s message, how to cope with change in your life. If there’s one thing that’s constant in your and in my life it is change. I mean think about how quickly the world’s changing, think about politically how our worlds change especially if you live in the U.S. so over the last a little bit. I’m not here to talk about politics. No matter what side of the fence you’re on and and what party you associate or choose to not associate with. Life has changed for all of us in these last few months. Life changes for many of us on a personal level whether it’s your own health, whether it’s dealing with a troubled parent or an aging parent, and for yourself taking care of parents or for you adults taking care of a troubled teenager or a troubled child. Could be a health issue change there. Dealing with change in your and your health life for some of us has cancer for others of us that is surgery. Could be, I got a friend today that’s going into heart surgery whatever it is for you. How to cope and deal with change in your life. The first principle that we need to understand is that there are several right answers to deal with change. The second principle is that you don’t stop the initial right answer. There are several right answers to solve a problem or to help deal with change. Let me see if I can give you an analogy. When the doctors said that I would have to dream new dreams they do thoughts. When I said that I would have to get around differently I was put into an electric wheelchair. I thought that, that was going to be the solutions the only right answer. Now that’s certainly not a bad right answer, but an electric wheelchair they say would create freedom for me. It would allow me to go anywhere that I wanted to go, do anything that I wanted to do. Now this electric wheelchair, four-wheel drive. we’re talking curbs no problem. This inclines curbs. So on a street curb, this electric wheelchair with two batteries underneath probably a stronger motor than some of the v8’s that you’re all driving today. This electric wheelchair which costs more than a vehicle as well but that has to do with the health care and I don’t want to talk about that on this videotape. This wheelchair would help me to become more independent, this electric wheelchair weighs almost 300 pounds, this electric wheelchair would create freedom for me and it’s certainly a right answer. It’s not a, not a bad answer. So I use that wheelchair for the first couple years of my life. Climbed the curb just like they said. Grass not a problem. Dirt in a horse arena no problem. To go watch my daughter do her roping, going out in the field with my boys as they were doing the Alpha and changing water not a problem at all. This electric wheelchair really was indeed everything that they said that it would be. But then we ran into a problem. We went to Haiti as a family for a service trip. So we went to Haiti and we took the 300 pound wheelchair with us. The charge is on a 110 outlet I got battery backups But for some reason, the battery backups got left on. I’ll take the ownership in the blame for that. Although I think it was somebody else’s fault but that’s opposite my message so all on that and we ran out of power in Haiti with the wheelchair that I was, that 300 pound wheelchair.Oh by the way, the airlines they charge you an extra couple hundred dollars to load something that heavy on the plane. That’s okay I’m not complaining about that. I’m just grateful I get to fly it but they do charge for overweight luggage as many of you do well know and when you take a 300 pound wheelchair on they’re going to charge you a lot of money for that. Couple hundred bucks is what it cost. So here I was stuck in Haiti this is the analogy that I want to use with change. Here I am stuck in Haiti with with no way to get around anywhere. I mean if there’s anybody that’s really stuck in haiti it’s me. I can’t get anywhere unless somebody carries me because quite frankly in Haiti we didn’t see any wheelchair so they just, I don’t know if they just don’t exist or I don’t know we just we couldn’t rent one. There wasn’t a rental place for a wheelchair. The hospitals didn’t have wheelchairs that were conducive to my circumstance, my knees. Because I’m a quadriplegic. I am, I don’t know that there was that many quadriplegic, I just, I’m not judging Haiti. I’m just saying that we didn’t have something, I wasn’t, I wasn’t used to that. It wasn’t the normal so when I came back home and we couldn’t get home quick enough but we got home got the wheelchair charge up. My wife had this brilliant idea She said, why don’t you change and try manual wheelchair. Well, I’ve been in an electric wheelchair for two years I mean, in three years. I mean think about all the lack of freedom I would have with a manual wheelchair. Think about grass no way to push on grass and go on to Gracie’s horse arena shows in the dirt and what about curbs? Curbs are a problem and what about little bumps on the road? because the tires in the front of those little manual wheelchairs they’re not that great. Speaking of tires, on push wheelchair,there’s I mean those tires are slick. They’re slicker than, they’re slick. I mean the I don’t have any grip I can’t grab the tire so hard to push. I would fall forward which I did many times.

My wife said an electric wheelchair is one right answer but a manual wheelchair might give you more freedom to travel easier and they have some titanium ones now that are only five six pounds. Might allow you more freedom than what you thought. Even though you think that you’re not going to be able to push out on the grass the alfalfa there are other ways to accomplish those goals. So reluctantly, I agreed. Now I have to tell you, I didn’t like to change because when I went to push it, it cost me energy was effort. I remember that first time that they wanted me to push a wheelchair, at a high school track. My wife told me that if I could get around that track in 20 minutes, well she gave me an incentive. She said, that she would take us to teppanyaki grill and she would pay for it. Now back then she’s in charge of a checkbook and different stories but when you’re married you know where the money goes. Man I’m talking to you here’s just a broker that’s just kind of a side joke. But my wife said she would take us to teppanyaki and she would pay. But I had to get around that track in 20 minutes. can I tell you that I pushed, I pushed, and when I pushed, that first time on that chair on their own that track I remember thinking to myself I’m never going to make it. This is one push in 20 minutes there’s no way. I mean this was a this is a quarter-mile track at a high school I’m on the inside lane. There’s no way I’m going to make this and I push and I push again and my hands and flip and I would fall and I had gloves on too and we realized that they weren’t working out very good they kept sliding on the tires and I had those slick tires on. I remember one point I had to push my chair and I even had a wind behind me. I mean, I had a Back Wind and I still had to push my chair. A headwind of just three miles an hour caused a dilemma. Was changed I didn’t like that. But I’ll never forget when I crossed the finish line of that high school with just my wife, stop clock, and then our two little boys is all we had at the time. I crossed that finish line in just under 19 minutes. I didn’t like it. I was tired. I didn’t even want to go out to dinner but we went. And after that we learned some things.

We learned that we could change the gloves to find gloves that work better. We could change out the tires so no more slick tires. Today I go to Walmart when I get a new wheelchair and I buy these kind of tires. Notice when I push that my hands don’t grip and the knobby tires allow me to have grip. notice that this chair weighs six and a half pounds. The airline’s don’t charge me for that and I fly two hundred and seventy days a year. Dirt? I just find a couple of guys to get me across the arena. Soccer field no problem. Always a couple of people to help me get across a soccer field. The gloves that I use today stick to the tires as well so it allows me more grip and something amazing has happened. I’ve developed some strength in my shoulders and my biceps. And now that I’ve been pushing for 15 plus years I’m able to absorb energy and burn calories as well and I’m healthier because of it. So when we talk about dealing with change in life, I’m going to ask you to realize that it’s uncomfortable and my advice for you would be to get uncomfortable quickly. Get awkward quickly. Be willing to adapt quickly and realize ler’s end how we started. That there are several right answers. Several. I mean, there are several right answers to solve a single change. When you look at life that way and look at all the changes taking place, watch the potential that you reach. Watch the outcome and the result of your life when you look at change from a whole new lens. Kind of like the lens that I’m looking at right now in the camera. We’ve changed lens, lenses a couple of times during the single shoot so that we get a better shot of the tire, so that we get some different angles of me in this shot. We’ve changed lenses to a couple times. I’m asking you to look at life through different lenses for one change, one challenge, one problem, change lenses. It’s amazing that when you look through different lenses, you find several different solutions to solve a single change or a single challenge. This is Chad Hymas today asking you to look for several right answers to adapt to change.

Thanks for watching Hero TV today and thanks Chad for sharing this. We all have change and it’s nice to have conversations about this to realize that we don’t have to fear it. We can accept and we can move on and we appreciate that. We have a lot more videos every single day so be sure to subscribe. And remember to live on purpose, make a difference, be the hero.