How To Be Happy All The Time No Matter What
Welcome to Hero TV today. We’re going to be talking about how to be happy all the time no matter what, we’ve got Chad Hymas here. We actually already recorded the content of this he shares some amazing things so stay tuned. Hey welcome back Chad Hymas here on the topic of how to be happy all the time no matter what. Hate to bust your bubble it’s just not going to happen. I mean it doesn’t exist but I can tell you on how to be happy most of the time and really how to be happy when you’re not putting on a show or putting on face for somebody else. Being who you are really not. In other words, it’s easy to be happy around other people. I find it very easy to be happy in a setting when I’m with my wife at a basketball game watching my kid play ball. It’s easy to put on that persona in front of family, friends, neighbors, when you’re at a social gathering at a restaurant. That all things are well. But how are you going to be happy when you’re not around friends? when you’re by yourself in those dark moments? when the demons of life seem to surround you and attack you at all three fronts at the same time? how are you going to be happy? I ask myself this all the time. I’m in hotels 270 nights a year. How does Chad Hymas be happy when he’s by himself and the wife’s not there the kids are a basketball practice or at Scouts, how do I find happiness in those moments? So the first thing we need to do is to recognize that we’re not alone and having those feelings. Of being depressed, or experiencing unhappy thoughts. So it’s okay to not be happy all the time. But how do you get out of that? how do you try and be happy most of the time? or how do you try and be really really who you are when you’re alone? to marinate with who you are when you’re not alone? Because again, it’s easy to be happy when you’re with people, what about when you’re not with people? when you’re by yourself or when you’re when you’re experiencing thoughts of depression, doubt, fear, or even dare I say this, suicide? but that’s going to be tough. And there are a lot of people watching this video that have thought about taking their life. So how do you get over that? I don’t know that I had the answer but I got some things that have helped me. So I just submitted something to you right in on the video because I can’t share with you unless I to experience that myself. I almost don’t like to talk about that. How do you overcome that, experience happiness? Here’s, here’s number one, first principle. It’s going to come up big on your screen right now, I hope you guys can read this text. Focus on what’s going well for you not on what’s going poor for you. Focus on what you have, not on what you’ve lost. So, you can look at my body. Here, look close. I have lost 95% of my body. I mean, it’s gone. I can’t, I can’t feel my feet, the legs are numb, the midsection of my body is completely numb, bladder, bowels, those are out. I mean, they’re there, they just, I don’t have control. I mean I’ve trained them over time so but that’s not about this message this message is not about me training bladder and bowels. I just need you to know that they’re gone. I can’t feel that part of my body. My stomach, the muscles that I use to cough or to sneeze they’re gone. Two out of my three chest muscles, they are they’re not there.
The only chest muscle that I have is what allows me to use my diaphragm to to do this. To breathe. It’s the only muscle I have. Thank God for that. I mean, I’m really glad that I don’t have to have a machine doing that. That’s part of the mess, and my hands, gone. Forearms gone, the movement that you’re seeing right no, the movement, is just shoulders and a little bit of bicep. Triceps are gone. So I’ve lost 95% of my body so here’s the message, here’s, here’s, how to be happy most the time. I can focus on the 95 percent that I’ve lost and be completely miserable which I’ve done or I can focus on the five percent that I still have and I have found with that, not only am I more happy, but I’m more successful, more productive, more efficient. My wife is happy. More successful, more efficient, more productive. My kids are more happy. When I focus on what I have instead of what I’ve lost. Next step, number two, when you focus on what you have and not on what you’ve lost the five percent just seems to grow and grow and grow. Now I’m not saying that you’re ever going to hit 100% I’ve never met somebody that’s 100% happy all the time. In fact, I don’t think that person really truly exists. There’s always something pulling us back, something challenging are our weaknesses, something that’s making us or bringing us down that we look at as challenges but I really think they can become our our successes if we look at them differently. So number two is to really take that focus on what you have and allow that number to grow incrementally. So, 5% becomes 5.2. 5.7, 6.1, 6.8 notice I didn’t say 5 to 10 to 15 to 20 I didn’t. It’s the power of incrementalism. When you focus on the little that you have, those of you that have gone to divorce, those of you that have been in jail, those of you that have been an alcoholic, those of you that have lost a child, there’s one. Those of you that have gone through cancer, Don’t put big chips on that stuff because you’re going to find yourself depressed, unhappy, unsuccessful and I promise you those that are around you, are not going to want to be because it rubs off on them. But when you focus on what little you do have, other people benefit from that even if it’s just a little bit of light. Let me give you an example and I’ll be careful with this without sharing mains but this story take my word for it, it is true. I have a dear friend whose son was kidnapped under his watch. So he and his son are at the mall, and he’s in charge of watching his son while wife and daughter are off getting having a mother daughter, getting her nails done I think it’s what they were doing. So dad is watching young little boy at the mall and mom and daughter are the same all having a mother-daughter date. And while Dad is at the mall, he takes his eyes off of the Sun, off of his son, his boy for just a few moments, in his words, and his son is swiped. So when I say swipe, that’s the only word I can use. So I guess the polite word is kidnapped I guess, I just, I’m just telling how I see it I’m being variable, since that is taken I want y’all to know I’d rather break my neck ten times and to have my son of my son stolen from me.
Kidnapped, That’s a big loss. I’d rather be paralyzed physically which I am than to have my son taken from me and to never see him again/ not know where he went, not know who took it. If you imagine the anger I mean some of us can’t even fathom that we haven’t gone through that but there are some that are watching this right now, who has had a child taken from them either due to death or to kidnapping, or it just, just doesn’t seem right that a child leaves this life before a parent. I don’t know that I have the answer to that other than I know that God has a greater plan I’m just going to leave it at that and I do know that. You know what this friend told me? He said, in order to honor that loss, and in order to find happiness, through kidnapping of his son, we think about that? think about how easy would be defaulted to the depths of darkness for the rest of your life. I mean, forever. When a child is taken, I mean just to be what would keep you from taking a gun to your chin? and he mentioned this as he talked about it openly. What has prevented him from taking his own life and to find happiness and success and actually joy again and productivity, self value, worth in this world after being responsible for the kidnapping of your son but that didn’t watch him like you said you’re gonna watch him. Here’s how he honored his son. He doesn’t put the full value on his abduction.
He only gives his son 5% and to honor him, He gives everybody else around him all he has left which is 95, 95 percent. So when he wakes up in the morning and his feet hit the floor, he thinks to himself I wonder who I can help today? and how I can help them? and I want you to know that in so doing, John Walsh, now you all know the story. Could you see this guy on TV every night, every Friday night you have access to alternative channels you can watch him every night. The host of America’s Most Wanted his son was taken from him. and this guy has been an advocate in putting America’s topped fugitives behind bars over 3,000 now. And now it’s gone global. think of the good he’s done for many many families. Think of the good he did for Elizabeth Smart out of Salt Lake City Utah and now he’s mentored her after she was abducted for nine months and John Walsh and his great assist in helping find her and what he’s done for her on the sidelines that none of us have been privy to see. None of us would have benefited from that had John taken his life. So I went from one extreme to the other. But today, John will tell you that he honors that loss. He honors Adam by trying to go out and serve and help other people as much as he can and he gives Adam 5% but the other 95% of his focus. He focuses on that and through that, he has done joy and happiness, success and productivity in his life. I challenge you all to give those losses, those challenges, 5% and you will have 95 percent happiness in your life even your darkest moments when nobody else is watching. When you’re not with your friends, your colleagues, your peers, at lunch. this is Chad Hymas asking you all to find happiness and to find it as soon as possible.
Hope you enjoyed this episode of hero TV and thanks Chad for sharing your stories, sharing your experiences. There’s a lot of information down in the description below so you can find out more about Chad. Also things like how we filmed this video. And remember to live on purpose, make a difference, and be the hero.